From marital surveillance, nightmare divorces and everything in-between, don’t feel like a victim in divorce. There’s things you CAN control.

A victim of divorce tears his marriage license. This file is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic license. Flickr author: Cordell Cordell.

Feeling Like a Victim in Divorce? There’s One Thing You CAN Control

Shortly after attorneys are retained and spouses are served, most people quickly surmise they are swimming in the quicksand of the family law court system. Many feel violated and abused, like victims of an unfair and uncaring court system.

Incompetent attorneys, outrageous fees, callous and going-through-the-motions judges, knucklehead forensic accounts, amateurish 730 evaluators and incompetent private investigators often seem to dominate the process.

Netflix' Marriage Story.

Thoughts on ‘Marriage Story’ & How to Choose A Divorce Attorney

The Netflix’ film Marriage Story is largely a story about what typically happens during divorce: Both sides hire bulldog lawyers. As private investigators, we’ve worked with hundreds of divorce lawyers through the years, and we are happy to help with free recommendations for family law attorneys. Choosing the right one is likely one of the most important decisions you will make in your life.

Financial ignorance in marriage costs everything in divorce

Getting married? Here’s 2 easy tips to avoid a nightmare marriage.

So you’re ready to walk down the aisle with the love of your life. But have you done all your homework?

By and large, these divorces are usually a direct result of one or more of three things: infidelity, substance abuse, and/or money problems.

Here I’ll explain two easy things you can do before marriage to save yourself from these problems.

Is marital surveillance obsolete? Not in big-bucks divorce. Actors Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt at the 81st Academy Awards. This file is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported license. Attribution: Chrisa Hickey

Is marital surveillance obsolete? Not in big-bucks divorce

Among the explosion of headlines about the Angelina Jolie / Brad Pitt divorce, some reports are claiming Jolie had hired a private investigator to uncover evidence that her husband was cheating on her with recent co-star Marion Cotillard. The French movie star issued a strong public denial of any affair and took the opportunity to announce that she was pregnant by her long-time partner to boot.

Given the state of personal electronics, one could easily argue that full-scale surveillance is simply not needed. Cell phone records, texts, email, calendars, appointments… cheaters carelessly give up the game easily.

There will always be a need for old-fashioned full-scale stakeouts. In a world where there is no shortage of high-stakes, big-bucks divorce, providing court-admissible proof of infidelity is a job that will never fully become obsolete.

A change of heart: Reconciling Catholicism & Divorce

Your man will not change: Don’t be afraid of divorce

Certain things stick with you from a seminary education in the 1960s, and one of them was the idea of ‘No divorce’. As a Catholic, I accepted this edict unquestioningly.

After years of conducting marital surveillances, for a primarily female clientele of 80%, my opinions on divorce began to change. Radically. Over and over I saw women who were staying in terrible relationships. Granted, anyone who is consulting me is already on the marital Titanic.