Financial ignorance is when a partner knows nothing about the financial affairs of their own home. During a divorce, it can cost women everything.
Today I want to cover the topic of “sextortion”, from my perspective as a private investigator who has dealt with a number of cases that involve teenagers whom have been blackmailed after having shared risque or nude photos online or via text.
Dylan is an emotionally troubled teen that was subjected to unspeakable abuses at the hand of his mother while in her custody.
With the support of multiple therapists, hospitalizations, family, friends, and by the Grace of God – Dylan has survived.
Dylan was born with short stature syndrome and was treated with HGH for 10 years. This helped with his height, as he’s 5’7″ at 19 1/2 years of age. But, he has severe dental problems as a result of medications and his custodial parent leaving his braces on for 2+ years longer than needed.
I guarantee you that a visit from a licensed PI for your mom, dad or grandparent will be the talk of the facility that day – for both the staff and the residents. When I walk in and say, “Hi, I’m Tom Martin and I’m a private investigator. I’m here to check on Mary Lou Smith,” with my license in hand, the reaction is priceless – and very telling. Some staff immediately get flustered and literally hold up their hands in front of me, as if to try to bar me. “Whoa, whoa whoa….”
Many years ago, a likeable but otherwise unremarkable man showed at my corporate office.
“I’d like you to follow my wife,” he said. “I think she’s cheating on me.”
The surveillance went as expected… but the odd legal battle that followed was very interesting.
Los Angeles-area general practitioner Dr. Lisa Tseng was sentenced to thirty years to life this month after three of her patients fatally overdosed on painkillers. This marks the first time in US history a doctor has been convicted of murder for overprescribing drugs.
Tseng’s case shines a light on one of the single biggest problems facing our nation today: Opiate addiction – the dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about. Drug addiction barely merited a discussion in the recent presidential debates, though several states where primaries were held are awash in drug problems.
Certain things stick with you from a seminary education in the 1960s, and one of them was the idea of ‘No divorce’. As a Catholic, I accepted this edict unquestioningly.
After years of conducting marital surveillances, for a primarily female clientele of 80%, my opinions on divorce began to change. Radically. Over and over I saw women who were staying in terrible relationships. Granted, anyone who is consulting me is already on the marital Titanic.
As a former Drug Enforcement Administration supervisory agent, I watched the Joaquin “El Chapo” Guzman soap opera unfold with a growing sense of disbelief. As the uproar from Sean Penn’s misguided meeting with one of the world’s most wanted criminals begins to subside, I can only shake my head and wonder, in a contest between dumb and dumber, who is more misguided and who has the bigger ego?
El Chapo is supposedly a brilliant criminal mastermind. But I’m not sure that is an accurate description.
In any divorce due to an affair, you’re going to see financial infidelity – the hiding of assets.
Our case of the week involves a woman in exactly this situation.
For our case of the week, we were hired by parents to perform surveillance on their 16-year-old daughter, “Shannon”. She was abusing drugs and alcohol, not attending school and had actually struck her mother in the face on two occasions. In 2015, we have had approximately 50 cases where a parent or custodial guardian has…