I have often written about the pitfalls teenagers and young adults face when they travel to Southern California in the search for fame and glory in the entertainment industry. Most careers end up like shattered seashells on the sand.
Many parents retain us to find these kids. Many are far from proactive parents. Some engage in drug and alcohol abuse themselves. Often, the entire family needs behavioral modification.
One time, I called a father after I found his son. I was stunned when the father told me to call back, as he was on the first tee at the country club.
A similar story: I called a mother when I found her daughter. She too asked me to call later, as she was busy shopping at the post-Christmas sale at their local mall.
You get the picture.
Contrast those parents with Chris Martin of Spokane, Washington. Chris was unhappy that his 19-year-old daughter, Cassie, was posting proactive selfies online. He very frustrated that reasoning with Cassie had gotten him nowhere, and arguing and lecturing also met with negative results.
A warehouse inventory manager who moonlights as a comedian, Chris hatched a plan to post his own “sexy” selfies – imitating Cassie’s previously posted selfies.
The rest is history. His provocative photos took the Internet by storm.
According to Chris, this all started about a year ago. Cassie, an apprentice at a tattoo shop in Spokane, posted a selfie dad thought was very seductive. Chris is quoted as saying, “I thought, ‘wow’, that should be toned down…especially when I saw the comments from some of her guy friends. But rather than throw water on the fire, I decided, okay, I’ll dress up like she did with stuff from around the house and post my own photo.” On one I posted, “what about me guys?” and the feedback was instant and widespread.
Cassie reacted positively but know one knows if she will tone it down. “I thought it was funny,” Cassie told reporters.
Not to be left out, Cassie’s mother, Jani, bought a white tank top for Chris. “Okay, now you have a top just like Cassie’s. That photo, shown here, really sent the internet abuzz.
There is a lot of pressure for young girls to be accepted, look pretty and grow up way too fast.
Each parent has to decide what game plan is best for them and their family. Unfortunately, many parents who are my clients have no plan at all. My guess is that this mimicking would not be accepted in a number of families I have dealt with over the years.
There is a lot of pressure for young girls to be accepted, look pretty and grow up way too fast. Some get caught up in one of the fastest growing crimes in the Unites States, sextortion.
Chris may not be Father of the Year in Spokane, but at least he was very proactive and positive in making his point to Cassie. His efforts may result in Cassie trying to up her game and make things worst. Hopefully not. Maybe Cassie will not only see the comedic side of her father but his efforts to tone it down.
My hat is off to the parents who are hopeful they can turn Cassie around. Chris didn’t just go play golf nor did Jani just shop at the mall and turn a blind eye. Action and hope are wonderful things.